Wednesday, August 4, 2010

How to Live and Let Live

Oh, the drama.

Over on lovineveryday,  I posted a story today, a story that blended my shattered childhood with some of the problems I experience as an adult mother. I've said multiple times, when you write on the internet, the person you thought won't read it will, for sure, everytime..

And yes, of course, SweetAngelLittleSister read it promptly.


I know better, really I do.

So this missive will take on another where I tell her, and the world at large, why our family is so broken. Who knows? It could be therapeutic.

But where to start?

I remember potty training. That's as far back as I can go. When you get old, and the gray hairs start to peak out around your eyebrows and you start to say things like "because I said so," and "kids these days", your childhood begins to break up into chunks, and if you are me, you carefully chip away at the chunks and turn them into snapshots. Snapshots hold less anguish then full on movie scenes in the brain.

More specifically, I remember my Mother ARRIVING to potty train me. She always smelled like lipstick and unnamed cheap cologne, and she was beautiful. I wanted to be her. Badly.

She put me on the toilet, and I argued. A lot.

I did NOT have to go.

Finally, she caved, picked me up, and set me on my grandparents hamper. And I promptly took a dump all over it.

My grandmother finished my potty training, as she tucked me in each night, and as she taught most everything else. You see, I did not live with my mother. She was a stranger, a lady that visited and drank coffee and smoked cigarettes. And she smelled like lipstick.

I don't know why I lived with my grandparents. I've heard the stories, from both sides, and they buzzed through my head like stinging bees for years before I decided I didn't care anymore. I've long forgotten the details, the whens, the whos, the hows.

One thing I know for sure. My name is Heather, and my mother is a drug addict. 

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Where to write about the disappointments.

In all of my moving glory, and finally realizing the purchase of our first house, which truly is a gift, and in the beginning of my blog adventures, I've found a truth.

The person who actually reads what you write is almost always the person you thought wouldn't bother.

And yes, sometimes feelings are hurt. Feelings being hurt are against the lovinangels code of conduct. I'm not mean. I refuse to say a lot of what I think because, well, sometimes I think people are assholes.

And I don't think that someone treating me badly is an excuse to return the favor.

The bottom line is, I'm starting to get really angry. I need a place to vent this stuff that I don't post on facebook, but if I'm going to write, I might as well post my ramblings to the unseen world at large, and hope that some wisdom will drift my way and help me through it.

So here we are. My second blog. The blog that it's possible no one will ever read. But then again, maybe you will.

And maybe you'll help me, in some way, connected across space and time.